If life came with an owner’s manual, this would be it

Are You Ready to Succeed?After I finished reading this book for the second time, I knew I would be reading it again and again throughout my life. That wasn’t my reaction when I first got it in the summer of 2013. I didn’t like the title and I didn’t like the cover. Then I started reading it and stopped. But my friend who recommended the book is smart and accomplished, so a few months later I picked it up again. The more I read, the more I knew it was a special book.

The book is Are Your Ready to Succeed? by Srikumar Rao. Practicing the ideas in the book is one of the best investments you can make.

Simple switches in the way we approach life

In the introduction, the author describes how his early career and life was unfulfilling: “The notion that one could find deep meaning and sustenance from life and from what one did for a living was an alien one.” He switched to teaching and began searching through a wide range of texts and traditions, looking for a better way.

He packaged what he learned into a course that he ultimately taught at Columbia Business School. The ideas in the course are about an approach to life and the way we view it, but he felt those ideas would shape his students’ careers as well.

“I knew I could help them achieve even better results with far less anguish by teaching them a series of simples switches in the way they approached life, such as by focusing on what they could contribute rather than what they could get.”

One of the many things I love about the book is the selection of charming parables sprinkled throughout. Here’s a Sufi story as introduced by the author.

Good Thing, Bad Thing, Who Knows?

The first thing when you face an outcome different from what you expected is to judge it. You label it “good” or “bad,” but generally “bad.” The greater the deviation from what you wanted, the worse you think it is.

The following Sufi tale is instructive.

An old man lived in a verdant valley with his son, a handsome and dutiful youth. They lived an idyllic life despite a lack of material possessions and were very happy. So much so that feelings of envy arose in their neighbors.

The old man used practically all his savings to buy a young wild stallion. It was a beautiful creature and he planned to use it for breeding. The same night he bought it, it jumped over the paddock and disappeared into the wild. The neighbors came over and commiserated, “How terrible,” they said.

“Good thing? Bad thing? Who knows?” said the old man.

Ten days later, the stallion was back. It came with a herd of about a dozen wild horses, and the old man was able to lure all of them into his paddock, which he had fixed so escape was no longer possible. “What good fortune!” said the neighbors as they clustered around.

“Good thing? Bad thing? Who knows?” said the old man.

His son started to train the horses. One of them knocked him down and stomped on his leg. It healed crookedly and left him with a permanent limp. “Such misfortune,” said the neighbors.

“Good thing? Bad thing? Who knows?” said the old man.

The next summer, the King declared war. Press gangs came to the village and rounded up all the young men The old man’s son was spared because of his game leg. “Truly you are lucky,” exclaimed his neighbors as they bemoaned their own losses.

“Good thing? Bad thing? Who knows?” said the old man.

That very winter…

Wisdom to practice and live by

The underlying wisdom in this story is about knowing your truth, sticking to the process, and being free of the outcomes. The way Srikumar Rao delivered it made me understand and embrace that wisdom and want to put it into practice.

Most of the truths in Are You Ready to Succeed? are related to being mindful and controlling our attention and have been available to us for thousands of years. Yet it’s only with practice that we can realize the benefits of knowing them.

I look forward to reading the book again and to redoing the exercises in a special journal I’ve dedicated for that purpose. I just bought the book and a journal for my daughter in the hopes that she can start applying its wisdom sooner than I did.

The keys to a happier life are in your head. This book will help you find them.