“I wasted 18 years of my life,” she said. The HR person had just contacted her, and my friend was clearly shaken. She felt all her years of effort should have added up to something more than a meeting in a conference room with people reading from a script. This was a few years ago, and her reaction stuck with me. It made me think of what my own reaction would be.
Even the mere prospect of being laid off - or “RIF’d” referring to a reduction in force - brings up strong emotions: fear, shame, anger, denial. But what good does any of that do?
Most firms run like machines. They don’t want to lay people off. It’s wasteful and expensive. But they’ll do it to ensure the survival of the machine. It’s the epitome of what we mean when we say “It’s nothing personal. It’s just business.” For the person being laid off, though, it is intensely personal.
So think for a moment about what you would do when you get that call: “Can you step into the conference room for a minute?” Think of what will you say to your spouse, your friends, and to prosepctive employers. Think of what you will do that day and that week.
Will you only then start to reach out to contacts, or document what you've been working on, or update your LinkedIn profile? Will you regret not having invested in relationships that could have helped you now?
Put yourself in that moment and let yourself feel what it would feel like. Now, channel the disappointment and anxiety into constructive steps you can take to build your network, into a practice that will help you feel better and take control of your career.
What will you do when they lay you off?
Why don’t you do that today?