I’ve got a problem and I’m hoping you can help me. I know that working out loud - working in an open, generous, connected way - increases your chances of finding meaning and fulfillment in your work and life. I also know I can teach anyone the necessary ideas and techniques, and I can coach individuals to gradually develop new habits to do it regularly.
But how would you help millions of people to work out loud?
Part of the answer, it seems, is a self-organizing peer support system for people’s careers. So we’re setting out to create one.
When peer support works & when it doesn’t
I’ve been in exactly one successful peer support group. It was part of Keith Ferrazzi’s Relationship Masters Academy and everyone in the class was part of a 4-6 person group. Some worked and some didn’t. Our group was effective because we got to know and trust each other quickly, we had specific things to do, and we had a schedule for meeting in person. When any of those things broke down, so did our group.
There is a wide range of peer support programs. People who want to lose weight, to become better speakers, to be happier. It’s easier than ever to form groups but as hard as ever to maintain them or have them actually achieve something.
One program in particular has most of the elements I’d want in a support system for working out loud.
A great peer support group
When Sheryl Sandberg wrote Lean In, it wasn’t for the money but for the movement. She wanted to genuinely help women (and men) develop new habits and new mindsets related to everyday work and to their overall career.
Today, there are over 14,000 Lean In Circles and the available support is excellent.
- It’s easy to join an existing group or form your own.
- There’s a moderator role to help keep things organized, positive, and productive.
- A rich FAQ provides answers to common questions.
- Circle Kits provide clear instructions for running meetings & simple exercises complete with worksheets and examples.
- There’s a range of additional online resources on a beautiful website, including video lectures for developing specific skills.
No wonder so many groups formed. The book inspired many people and Lean In Circles provide an easy way to build on that and help people put the ideas into action.
Working Out Loud Circles
There’s a lot to learn from Lean In Circles and much to emulate. A Washington Post writer felt it was the Circles, not the book, that would define the legacy of Sheryl Sandberg's movement. But their mission is somewhat different from mine. After spending time with 6 different Circles, the Post writer described them this way:
I found the Lean In Circles to be more like Alcoholics Anonymous fused with Girl Scouts — a support group built around a social movement.
That may be both appropriate and effective given Sheryl Sandberg’s book - often called a “feminist manifesto” - and her goals. Working Out Loud is not a manifesto. It's based on my experience with the 12-week coaching program. In addition to having people support each other, I want the groups to develop specific ways to make their work visible, frame what they do as contributions, and build a richer, more purposeful social network.
So while aspiring to achieve the best of Lean In Circles, I’d do three things differently:
Limit the groups to 4-5 people including the moderator. More than that and there’s too much free-form discussion and not enough time for detailed feedback on individual’s goals and progress.
Meet for 12 weeks only. After an initial meeting to get to know the other people and their goals, groups members would be asked to commit to 11 additional meetings. It’s hard for support groups that meet indefinitely to maintain their early enthusiasm and momentum. People tend to view meetings as optional and come and go as they feel they need them. Instead, we’ll seek to build a sense of shared commitment - “emotional communion” - over a finite period. That will focus people’s attention and greatly increase the odds they’ll make progress.
Provide a more structured curriculum. The 12 weeks are meant to be a guided mastery program. The more specific the exercises and the more tangible the results in terms of artifacts and feedback, the more likely that people can develop new habits that stick.
What’s one thing we could do better?
We’re starting small. Some very good friends in London already launched the first Working Out Loud Circle. I’ll moderate a circle in New York starting next week and a small group at work in Barcelona just decided they’d form a circle.
It’s exciting and daunting at the same time. There’s so much to do and learn. I don’t dare propose I can help as many people as Sheryl Sandberg but I dare to dream it. When the doubts arise as they always do, I’ll just do the work and ask people who care about it for honest feedback.
So please contribute your opinions in the comments. Does the idea of forming Working Out Loud Circles make sense to you? Have you ever been part of a peer support group? What worked and what didn’t?
To help millions of people work out loud, what’s one thing we could do better?